Born to Wed, Forced to Work

The beatings will continue until morale improves

There’s a concept coined by Adam Smith called “the invisible hand” - a metaphor for the unseen forces that move the free market economy. In short, individual self-interest drives economic decisions, which is supposed to result in the best possible outcome for society.

The drop in marriage rate since women were forced into the workplace a century ago is evidence enough for me to say in no uncertain terms that self-interest does not produce the common good; it simply explains that economic self-interest drives decisions.

Let me paint a picture (forgive me for the autobiography): a 17 year old senior in high school dreams of marrying her high school sweetheart. He says he’s going off to college in the fall and dumps her. And before you come after her for being a washed up slut wasting her youth on a high school bf - she’s a virgin.

Her father loses his job, her mother has been a SAHM all her life, and she becomes the only person in the family, with two younger siblings still in school, who is able to find work.

She works as a hostess/busser at a restaurant and a cashier at a thrift store for two years, eventually getting a slightly above minimum wage raise and a low level management position. She continues to go to Church every Sunday, pray the Rosary daily, read the Bible, and beg God for a husband while putting food on the table for her entire family. After two years, her father still hasn’t found work despite applying to 500 jobs (this is no exaggeration); her mother, having been a SAHM, has failed to find employment due to no work history for 20 years yet a Master’s in STEM; and she is clinically depressed, unable to find a nice Catholic boy to settle down with nor seeing a way out of the 40+ hour workweeks executing tasks far beneath her valedictorian’s intellect.

Her mother finally gets a job as an assistant manager at a craft store. Seeing no hope for a future mate (most boys don’t go to normie church these days) or upward economic mobility in her present environment, she decides to go to college. She thinks to herself, at best I will meet a good Christian boy there; at worst, I’ll have a degree that ensures I can take care of myself financially for the rest of my life.

Fast forward 4 years.

The dating situation hasn’t changed, yet the financial situation has improved.

In response to the 29-year-old single girl crying on TikTok in her car

It’s easy to pontificate from an anonymous account, “Sucks to suck! Should’ve gotten married young, you stupid over-25 bitch”, but the guy sending the Tweet is making the girl’s case for her.

Why, in God’s name, would a self-interested person (as we all are) choose to commit to a lifelong union with someone like our Dear Anon? It doesn’t happen. And when it does, it ends, often, in divorce.

Today, if you get married between the ages of 18 and 24, you are 60% more likely to divorce than if you marry between ages 25 and 35. Why might this be?

I can only speak anecdotally, but I sadly know many people who married their high school sweethearts at a young age, only to divorce before age 25. And they grew up in highly conservative, Christian communities! Parochial school, church every Sunday, and the usual religious and social pressures to marry young, remain virgins until marriage, and stay together their whole lives. For all her yapping, Just Pearly Things is right on this issue: no one is safe from divorce. However, she places blame solely on women, which I admit is correct in most cases of post-30 married women with children; I simply wish to point out, in the marriages I know of that dissolved before age 24, infidelity and physical abuse on the part of the husband were the main causes.

Infidelity and physical abuse indicate not necessarily that these boys are pure evil, but that they have not yet matured. Maturity is an overlooked factor in the success of marriages; it’s why marriages lasted so long in previous generations. We have infantilized young adults, perpetuating adolescence well into the twenties and sometimes even thirties. Back in the day, a 22 year old male was a man; today, he is still a boy. A smart, pretty, often forced into the workforce girl of the same age may wish for marriage with all her heart, but she won’t get a boy to agree to nuptials. He hasn’t “seen what’s out there”, he’s “keeping his options open”, he’s “not ready to settle down yet”. And if she makes it clear she is religious and waiting for marriage, the prospects of him even committing to minimally the title of “boyfriend” drop to basically zero. Now is his time to live it up, not be tied down.

She goes back to praying her Rosary and asking God for a good man while clocking in to her 9-5 job Monday-Friday.

She gets older, and the guys her age start to talk about marriage, but they’re still largely not religious, not interested in waiting until marriage, and often have let themselves go physically (the post-college frat boy weight gain is real). Yet, they now have a sense of entitlement - “What’s wrong with you? Why don’t you want to marry me? I’m a good guy, I have a job.” But so does she, and the economic security that used to be an incentive for women to marry no longer applies. Besides, she’s not interested in a mere economic output unit for a husband: she desires someone who is intellectually and morally her equal, because she knows she needs that if she’s going to have well-raised, successful future children and actually feel - *gasp* - happiness in her lifelong union.

The Redpill movement, embittering incels, prompts them to double down on their indignation: “Your biological clock is ticking, your eggs are running out. Take me up on my offer or die alone! You don’t want to be an ugly old cat lady with no SMV.”

Yet, her ability to financially support herself enables her to pass on such an undesirable proposal. And who can blame her? Why live with someone like that the rest of your life, when you can be an ugly old cat lady with a nice house, nice car, trips to Europe, and a fat 401k? For better or worse, young women are opting for the latter because they know the consequences of choosing the former. 50 years spent with someone who makes her miserable is essentially a death sentence; dying alone and childless is preferable, because if nothing else, she can enjoy her own company instead of forcing herself to tolerate daily such an attitude and such a person.

Sympathizing with Ms. Ryan Spencer

She gets to 30, and the men her age start to say, “Too old” and turn to early 20s 304s. They don’t marry them (because they’re h0es), so the lack of weddings continues. The 30 year old woman looks for men at church, but they’re overwhelmingly overweight, or autistic (and I mean autistic in the literal sense), or both. Meanwhile, she’s kept herself chaste, in good shape, charming, and social. The crux of the problem is this:

Today’s men are undesirable to today’s women.

Women are now able to economically satisfy their needs.

Women choose to never marry over choosing an undesirable husband.

It’s that simple.

Whether any of us like it or not, women are the sexual selectors of the species. She’s not going to sexually select you, bro, if you’re a slob, antisocial, or rude! Nor is she going to pick you if you’re 15 years her senior (at least, not forever. She might date you in the short term, but long term, no shot).

And women will continue to not sexually select ANY men until the male population improves. Cry and scream and rage all you want - do you want a wife? I am a woman, telling you what to do to attract women: Be funny, nice, social, and make yourself look your best. Actually go to church, pray, and believe in God. Practice chastity. You will woo a woman - probably many women - just by doing this, with the caveat that they’re within your general age group. Don’t go at this as a 40 year old trying to snag a 25 year old - she isn’t going to marry you. I’m just telling the truth. Don’t shoot the messenger!

In conclusion: what this poor woman’s viral video proves is women WANT to BE married, but they DON’T want to marry, don’t HAVE to marry, and WON’T marry guys who are underemployed, overweight, antisocial, areligious, and bitter. Just as MEN don’t want to marry overweight, areligious, bitter women!

The solution isn’t to scold women, “Quit your job and find a husband!” or shame them, “Shouldn’t have wasted your youth! Now NO ONE wants you lol!”

The solution is to improve the quality of men. And no one wants to hear it. Because it’s easier to cope and seethe than to self-reflect and self-improve - and men have fragile egos. God forbid a woman choose a lifetime of celibacy over living with a fat, lazy, shallow, angry, or alcohol/drug-addicted manchild.